When welcoming a new grandchild into the world, you naturally believe that you will have at least some say in the rearing of this little bundle of joy as far as it is well concerned.
You are wrong.
I am sorry, but no matter how fiercely you love your new grandchild, you will have absolutely no say in how that child is raised. This is a very common phenomenon, and there are several books on the subject of helping new grandparents adjusting to their children taking the reins in the raising of their children.
To help you cope with this new time, and to help keep the hurt feelings to a minimum, here are a few rules to bear in mind.
1. Keep Quiet
Your opinions are neither wanted nor welcomed so that you know. Not even if you are asked for your opinion on something should you state your full and unbiased opinion: your children are likely stressed, sleep-deprived, and fed up with everything that tries to defy them, so telling them something helpful that you think they also want to hear is important.
To be clear, your children will assume you know absolutely nothing about childbearing. Even though you raised the little urchins yourself, you will need to audition for the part of a grandparent.
Which leads me to…
2. Know That Your Grandchild is NOT Your Grandchild
Not yet, anyways.
As stated above, you will need to show off your expert childrearing skills before your children – who love you always, and never forget it –will even begin to trust you with their child.
DO you hold them right? Do you know when to and not to burp them? Do you know that you shoulder never put a child down on their stomach?
You will make mistakes, and you will have to earn their trust back. And then you’ll have to renew their faith, like license plates.
3. Learn the New Rules of the World
Parenting has changed in the years since you raised your kids, and indeed, the world has as well. Things that were only spread through word of mouth are now available in seconds over the internet, and so things that you would have thought perfectly fine or completely out of the question are now flipped.
Don’t hold your baby too much? Studies show that holding your baby promotes brain development. Shove a soother in their mouths? That gives kids buck teeth.
Most young adults know more little trivia from the internet about childrearing than you can shake a stick at, and your hard-won knowledge you gained from experience just don’t compare in their minds.
4. Stay Up to Date With Your Life
Don’t get so swept up in the new life your kids are trying to raise that you forget about your own. So many people get caught up in their grandchildren that they forget about what’s going on with them themselves.
Always do your best to maintain your sense of self-worth and well-being, and don’t let your grandchildren take precedent over things like bill payments or other things. They’ll still be there when you’re done. For men and women over 40, look for alternative activities such as yoga. Check out yoga for weight loss for beginners. Yoga has many benefits and is easy enough for older ladies and gentlemen.